Super-Stressful Environment - Help?

[Azriel]

So here's the situation.

I live in a very busy household. Dad is constantly furious at ssomething that's happened to him. If it was rainy, it wasn't raining. It was raining at him. If somebody was playing loud music on the train, they were playing their loud music at him. Yeah. You get it.

Mama's constantly worked up about the number of problems she has to face.
Li'l brother's brings his girl issues, school issues, work issues, etc, into the home and feels that everyone needs to know about it. A trait he picked up from daddy dearest.
Li'l sister is losing her license for speeding, not liking her apprenticeship, etc etc.

So. I was the only one who was really handling things well. Until my friend Jordan committed suicide on Wednesday morning. Things are... well, there's a lot more going on behind the scenes. Things I don't feel entirely comfortable posting here... but it's a very high-pressure, volatile and stressful environment. I kind of feel like my bedroom (and the entire property) is becoming a negative-energy generator and that the more negativity builds up here the more chance there is of it attracting something not so nice.

Bad things are drawn to bad energy. That's a simple fact.

I've tried traditional methods. Talking to them all individually about their problems, trying to play mediator, but it seems that just winds up weighing me down more and doesn't help them. I've tried smudging, redirection of energy, I've tried converting some of the negative energy into raw energy and using it for other purposes, but nothing seems to work.

Does anybody know any (very powerful) cleansing spells that might help me to at least take the edge off this?

It's starting to feel like a vortex in here.

[Suzie Q]

Smudging is not going to help with unwilling folk around you.

If you cannot move, try being out of the house as in the garden, or spend more time in you bedroom.
Start a hobby that keeps you busy.
Listen to music with ear phones.
Try reverse psychology, with each person on their own do a random act of kindness without playing it up as a big deal, and leave the room. 
Keep doing that with each person, without expecting anything in return.
Tell each person how nice they look today, for their ears only - not in a packed room - then go about your business as though you hadn't said anything at all.
At night in your room do a meditation where you ask your "helpers" to pour healing oil on each family member.

Also if you are in a room and the racket starts, if you are unable to leave the room, pretend that you are watching a 'silent' movie and cannot hear the sound track, it becomes interesting when you master this one, it is a little bit like reading a book and concentrating on what you are reading, and the sound levels around you fade into the back ground.

It might take awhile to work its way out, but keep going - it is amazing to see the difference one person can make!

[Azriel]

Thank you. I will definitely make an effort to put all of those things into place.
I'm starting to think, though, that my time in this house is limited. You see, this isn't actually my family to begin with. It's a complicated story, but I came to visit an interstate friend some time ago and... well, her family simply told me not to go back. My old life was not exactly a charmed one... but it's turned out this one is perhaps more than that. I'd go so far as to say it was close to cursed, rather than charmed. (figure of speech, not literally cursed)

You're an Angel, Suzie. I first heard of you maybe four minutes ago and you've been nothing but gracious and helpful the whole while. Truly, thank you.

Blessed be your name and soul.

[Kendrom]

Wow! We came from the same family! Although the parental roles are reversed between us, the situation is still the same.

In a situation like yours, it is easy to fall into believing that you can do nothing about it. Try, try, and try again, and it all comes back. Negative energy, bad Karma, bad Juju, no matter what one calls it, it always tries to come back. You always clean it, but it still comes back. It is easy to get discouraged and, for lack of a better term, "give up". Don't! I know it's hard, very hard. But never stop believing in what you can do.

Remember, you are surrounded by all of this negativity. It sounds like none of the others are trying to stop, or even reduce it in any way. That means that you will have to face it every time you enter that house, or are around those people. If your house (symbol of you) is in a wooded area (symbol of where you live now), you will always have leave to sweep out. If your house is in the desert, you will always have sand to sweep out. If your house is at the north pole, you will always be tracking snow in with you. Cleaning your house is a constant thing, always ongoing.

A good example is my best half's house. Always in an uproar, always chaos, tons of bad energy. So, one day, I cast a simple spell. All it was for was to bring balance into the household. Nothing fancy, just even the energy so that it was balanced, as it should be. It worked just fine. Even the structure felt better. The newly arrived puppy even calmed down and took a nap. Then a certain person came home, and it was less than two minutes (yes I timed it) and the entire house, and the people in it, were in an uproar again.

What is my point? Several. First never let your circumstances damage your belief. Know that you can make changes to the situation. After all, you have all the energy of the Goddess, God, and the Elements at your disposal. Second, you will have to repeat your actions over, and over, and over again. Until you either manage to correct the cause, or move your house to a better location. Remember to take care of yourself, first. You can not do good for others if you, yourself, are in need of help.

I would suggest that you seek balance, foremost. One can cast all kids of spells, and battle psychic vampires, and all kinds of fancy stuff. But if you do not have balance, then it will all be for naught. Take what Suzie Q has said, and use it to help you find a balance in your life first, then in what is around you. If you find that what is needed it more positive (rather than try to eliminate the negative), then draw positive energy into yourself, then release it into those around you. There will always be negative energy, even in a balanced life. Maybe your situation is not one of too much negative, rater one of too little positive. If so, be the source of that positive energy.

If you are looking for spells to help, I would suggest a shield spell. Visualize a huge shield, like the Spartans used. Visualize it with the bottom penetrating the ground, like a fence post would. The shield will shunt the bad energy into the Earth, where it will be dissipated, or used elsewhere, where it is needed. At the same time, the shield will draw good energy from the Earth to strengthen you. Also, a tip I learned from a very wise woman. Don't use all of your power to do this. You will drain yourself. Just just enough of your own energy to draw, and direct the energy around you. Let the energy do the work, while you simply direct it to where it is needed.

Simply put, keep it simple. Seek the balance in your life first, then in what is around you. Meditate to discover the answer(s) to what is the cause. Balance that, and you will see things change fore the better. It is the same energy in us, that exists in the Goddess, God, and the Elements. We have access to all of it. So this task is not beyond you.

Do remember, "An Ye harm none..." Don't cast any spell that would change their free will. Maybe ask that they be able to see what they are like; what their actions are doing to others; see how it is hurting you; things like that. But avoid turning them into zombies if you can.

I hope this helps, I hope that you will soon find the answers you seek.
May this turmoil teach, and strengthen you.

[LupusStormDancer]

All that can be done in such a chaotic situation is to leave it behind, it is a hard thing to leave those you care for. But it is better to save your sanity and leave. I have cuts ties from friends because they were such negative people. I hardly talk to my sister anymore because she became a negativ person, me and negativity do NOT get along. My apartments in general are pretty negative so I probably cleanse my home about once a month. This is a bit off topic, but sometimes a home can just have negativity in general like something bad happened there before you lived there or there is a negative being that resides in your home. I'm not saying that this is necessarily the case, but it is possible. And that negative energy can possibly be affecting the harmony within your home and family. Again not necessarily the case here, but possible.

                                                                                       -LupusStormDancer

[demonhunter]

It sounds like a power struggle in your home. If you take a step back and look at it, you will see what to do. Suzie had some good advice, take a walk and focus on your problem and ask the Goddess to guide you. Then go home and take more of a leadership role. Blessings to you Azriel.

[Azriel]

Ken -
Thank you! That shield spell sounds like wonderful advice.
Also, the strange thing is, I moved interstate to escape my original family because they were like this and I couldn't find work.
I come here, thanks to the kindness of relative strangers, only to find... they're exactly the same! And I still can't find work.

Lupus -
As you can see in my above paragraph, I've already cut a whole lot of ties and tried to start fresh. I thought I'd escaped it, but now I'm starting to wonder if something I do or something inside me is a bad-environment-magnet, or if I just choose the wrong place to be all the time... I'm working hard at my new job (first day today) to get out of it and into my own unit. Until that day, though, it's hard.

Demon -
Definitely a power struggle. I go for daily walks in the bushy swampland near my house. It's good, because I collect all sorts of things... stones, nicely shaped sticks, feathers, even a few animal pelts and bones (I know some don't agree with this, but they can make very good totems or reagents for talismans, and I always cast a blessing and bury the unused remains. Cycle of life? Waste not want not.)

[1stChosen]

We once had a large negative energy build up in our old house. it effected everyone including me until we finally realized what was going on. Luckily it didn't get too far out of hand before I took steps. I play with energy a lot so I am familiar with forming it into shapes and moving it.
To cleanse our house I get into a deep meditative state and form energy into a disk, visualizing it on a horizontal plane above me, building it by pulling small bots of energy from every green thing I know is in the area of our home. Once I feel this disk is large enough, I visualize it moving out side to one end of the house. At this point I stand it up and begin to move it slowly through the house visualizing it pushing the negative energy out. On occasion I have been able to see where in the house the energy disk comes in contact with a pocket of negativity.
I've had great luck with this method and use it from time to time just for the practice.
GL with you problem
Blessings
Chosen

[Ken Ra]

My advise is to get away from ground zero as fast as you can.  I appreciate your wanting to help them but at their age they do not want their problems fixed, and it  is really not your job to be their parent.