Newcomer in need of assistance (personal + witchcraft question)

[jaded1004]

  I'm going through a pretty tough time in real life. My family seems to have a history of anxiety issues, and my family is taking my elopement rather hard. To give some background, I'm in my mid-20s and I come from a career oriented middle class family. At one point I was in university for a power career, but due to my depression and anxiety issues I was unable to continue. During my years in university, I met my fiance. We've been together for 4 years now, but my parents don't approve of his level of education. I am fully capable of being independent, but they were paying for some years of university (i had full scholarship for the first 3 years but after that they helped with tuition). According to my cultural norms I was supposed to stay with them until i finished school and found a job before I got married. My parents are verbally and emotionally abusive- calling 5 times a day, calling just to see where I am, constantly putting me and my boyfriend down, cursing me- "if you go with him you're absolutely certain to have a lot of children, be poor, and divorce, criticizing me daily and pressuring me into breaking up with him. I had enough, and I have now moved in with my boyfriend to start a new life.

However my parents are taking it very hard. Both of them currently are having high blood pressure because of this. My aunt had to take a day off of work just to make sure they were okay. My mom called me at 3 am, probably out of hysteria. She has been crying on the phone a lot, even threatening suicide (I know she won't do it). Bottom line, she is very mentally unstable and the stress she is giving my father is weighing him down. I unfortunately share this line of anxiety issues.. and I have a hard time focusing sometimes

My questions are...
1) Is there a way for me to try to help her with her anxiety/hysteria that does not involve will binding?
2) Is there a way for me to protect myself against the ill she is probably wishing on me and my boyfriend?
3) Can I still practice even if I have anxiety issues (since one has to be mentally stable to perform witchcraft)

I'm a complete newbie to witchcraft I just feel powerless. My parents aren't the kind of people who can be bargained with- they have taken back their promises to stop the verbal abuse, and they have tried to 'forbid' me from seeing my boyfriend. I wasn't going to have any of that since I was an adult. This was the only way I thought I could be free. I feel like I've tried everything outside of the realm of the occult, I feel like this is the only path I have left to turn to. I still love my parents, I know they mean well, and I worry for them. But I know that they only way they'll ever accept me is if I can stand on my own, and I know it would never happen if i was under the same roof as them.

[Kaleesie]

Merry Meet, Jaded. It sounds like you have quite a bit of drama going on! Which I'm sure, if you weren't getting that many harassing phone calls your anxiety level will drop, maybe not completely, but enough for you to be able to catch your breath.. Some advice, before I answer your questions. And believe me, I'm not saying I'm an expert on anything, this is just the way I would handle it. I really don't know anything about you, beyond what you have written.
Personally, for your own sanity, stop taking all the calls.  Take the calls only when you are mentally prepared to handle the things your parents say to you. If I got a call at 3am, someone had better have a damn good excuse, and complaining is NOT one of them.
Now, to answer your questions.
1. Yes! You can conjure something for your mom to help calm her down. Relax her. Healing energies to her. Not only will you not take away her free will, you will be helping her feel better. (and that should also put your dad at ease too!)
2. Yes, one way is called psychic shielding. If you go to the search button, you will find many ways to help you with this.
3. Of coarse! I have several mental disorders. ( anxiety, bipolar, etc) I find if I take a "ritual bath" ( oils, herbs, salts, in my bath with candles lit instead of harsh bathroom lights to have a peaceful mood) it helps calm me. I also have breathing exercises and such and I ground and meditate before I cast. Just to make sure I'm centered so my magickal workings don't backfire.

I hope this helps. And I'm sure lots of others here on the forum can give great advice.

Blessed Be
Kaleesie

[jaded1004]

Thank you so much for your advice. I appreciate the condolences haha. I'm a bit of a complete newbie and it'll be a long while before I'm comfortable enough with my knowledge to go.

[Kaleesie]

No need to thank me. There are some great people on this site that can give you some helpful advice too. ( catch something I miss) 
I've been learning for only a couple of years now, there are people in this forum who have decades worth of knowledge that can help too! Go through some of the threads.. Read up. I know witchcraft can be intimidating. But  OH HOW IT'S WORTH IT!
I hope that your situation gets resolved either way.  And best wishes with you and your partner.

Blessed Be
Kaleesie

[ThunderWolf]

My questions are...
1) Is there a way for me to try to help her with her anxiety/hysteria that does not involve will binding?

Yes, simply don't play her game. Don't buy into all her drama. If she wants to get herself all worked up and make those around her miserable, that's her choice. But nobody around her (including you) has to give in and let her get the results she's going for by causing all this drama. Simply do not participate in it. Eventually (it may take some time) she will give up and quit acting this way. This may be anxiety in part on her side of things, but most of it sounds like it's just an overly dramatic way to get people around her to cater to her and give in to what she wants.

 

2) Is there a way for me to protect myself against the ill she is probably wishing on me and my boyfriend?

Yes. I'd suggest using the search function of this forum and use the search term "psychic shielding".

3) Can I still practice even if I have anxiety issues (since one has to be mentally stable to perform witchcraft)

I've had an anxiety disorder longer than I've been practicing witchcraft. It's never stopped me. The main thing to consider here is whether it is active enough at any given moment to prevent you from concentrating and focusing. Even if you can calm it down to a reasonable roar long enough to focus and concentrate on what you're doing, for that moment in time you've found stability. That doesn't mean the disorder is gone. It just means that you've found a way of dealing with it long enough to get something accomplished. So as long as you're able to manage your disorder--even for the time being--you're fine.

Edited to say: I didn't read beyond the first post when I replied. Now that I have read all the way through I see that I've repeated some of what has already been said. IMO that speaks well to the suggestions we've given you.

[jaded1004]

Thank you for the reply as well ThunderWolf I really appreciate it. One thing about my parents is that if I don't pick up the phone they'll contact the authorities. Worst case was when I dropped my phone in the car one evening. They couldn't reach me, by the next morning all my friends were tearful because they thought I was dead. They had been calling everyone they knew I knew. Hired a private investigator. Contacted the police. All in the span of one evening. I can't just avoid their calls, as much as I would like to. I know they love me but    there should be limits

[ThunderWolf]

There will only be limits if you enforce them. First you need to tell your parents flat out that you're no longer going to be answering the phone every time they call. Tell them flat out that you're sick of their persistent intrusions and that you'll answer only if and when you feel like answering.

If they want to call law enforcement let them. You may have to explain to the police that you're fine, you told your parents you wouldn't be answering every call and that they're just creating a panic to try to manipulate you. You may have to do that a couple times, but eventually they will start ignoring your parents and possibly even threatening to charge your parents with harassment if they don't quit bothering the police every time you choose not to answer the phone. You won't be the one in trouble with the police, and you do NOT have to deal with your parents' ridiculous behavior!

I'm not trying to be cruel by saying this, but I really think it needs to be pointed out to you. Your parents walk all over you because you allow them to by allowing them to emotionally blackmail you into letting them. If you don't take responsibility for your own life, set boundaries about what you are or are not willing to accept from them (or anyone else) you will never be free of this intrusion into your life.

[jaded1004]

There will only be limits if you enforce them. First you need to tell your parents flat out that you're no longer going to be answering the phone every time they call. Tell them flat out that you're sick of their persistent intrusions and that you'll answer only if and when you feel like answering.

If they want to call law enforcement let them. You may have to explain to the police that you're fine, you told your parents you wouldn't be answering every call and that they're just creating a panic to try to manipulate you. You may have to do that a couple times, but eventually they will start ignoring your parents and possibly even threatening to charge your parents with harassment if they don't quit bothering the police every time you choose not to answer the phone. You won't be the one in trouble with the police, and you do NOT have to deal with your parents' ridiculous behavior!

I'm not trying to be cruel by saying this, but I really think it needs to be pointed out to you. Your parents walk all over you because you allow them to by allowing them to emotionally blackmail you into letting them. If you don't take responsibility for your own life, set boundaries about what you are or are not willing to accept from them (or anyone else) you will never be free of this intrusion into your life.

Haha no I understand and I think you're just being logical not cruel.  I'm fully aware that my love for them is hindering me. I'm really worried about their psychological health right now, and I sincerely believe that my mom can't help herself. It's my father's own fault for letting that negativity affect him, but it doesn't change the fact that he suffers for it. We have agreed on a once daily phone call and I don't pick up any other time.

Would you happen to have any suggestions on any sort of healing spells that might be able to help her/her anxiety disorder? Have you ever tried any healing spells for your own anxiety? (forgive me if that question was too personal you don't have to answer it)

[ThunderWolf]

That's not too personal at all. Unfortunately, I can't say that I have. I've been getting treated by allopathic means, and I have occasionally given myself a Reiki session or gotten them from other Reiki practitioners. But in case you're unfamiliar with Reiki, it's a whole system of healing in and of itself and is not something so simple as a spell.

The closest thing I can think of to a spell that I've done to help with it is meditation. And sometimes even that is no small feat. LOL I've been meditating since 1989, and there are still times when the anxiety just has me too stressed out to relax enough to even meditate at all.

Usually when it gets that bad, though, I'll lie down in bed under the covers, shut my eyes and hope that my mind can get bored into sleep. That's not exactly a way of healing the anxiety, but it is a quick fix that seems to have benefit after I've awakened as well.

[jaded1004]

Thank you for all your advice ThunderWolf. My cousin has been meditating recently, I asked her how she does it she says she just sits and clears her mind. =[ My mind is always empty so does that mean it's always clear?  I'm joking but on the other hand.. I wouldn't call it focus but usually my mind is pretty empty when I'm not thinking of anything in particular. It sort of goes into white noise mode. But I don't call it focus because when I actually want to try to focus it still takes a lot of effort. Been looking in to psychic shields and hope to try it soon