Need some magickal help for my daughter please . Just don't know where to turn

[ravenstardust]

My daughter is addicted to codine . She was doing really good and not takeing it or even looking for ways to get pills . Then she found an old perscription and managed to get it filled . She took 25 750mg codine in one night . The next day she crashed and decided she wanted to kill herself . Because she ran to the ER and after 6 hours they finally told her that the doctor she saw the last time she was in rehab had put a note in her file saying she was not to ever get narcotics in the future . Well after a lot of arguments she finally went with her mother inlaw and commited herself to the mental ward at the hospital . Then yesterday she stabbed herself with a plastic fork . Then today she stabbed her arm with a ball point pen . She's finally had all the drugs out of her system and now comes the craveings and the guilt and self hate and self pitty . No one has gotten mad at her , she won't let me come to see her . i miss her and my depression is running overtime . I'm sad all the time . I just don't know what to do to help her .I did find a book that uses vitimins and exersize to help her get her body back . Before she found those pills she was going to the gym and takeing care of the kids and taking walks with me every day . Now I go by myself and by the time I'm on the way home I'm almost in tears ... I don't know how to help her husband I do what I can to help him with the kids which really isn't much . I picked up all the toys in the living room and now my back is screaming . I just told Brian that I'm more than happy to watch the kids I just can't watch the baby Elrick because i can't pick him up . But if Brians cousin stays with me then he lifts the baby for me and i can watch them so Brian can go look for a job . That's part of the worst stress he's been looking for a year and still hasn't found anything .
so I really need prayers and any advice anybody has , I really need you guys more now than I ever have .
She and I have such a strong bond that when she hurts herself I end up feeling it .So if i can feel her and i know she can recieve things from me . So if i could find a good healing spell maybe it could help bring my baby home . Her husband is just lost without her and her daughter asks for her mom every day...

[Winter]

I don't think you're going to find just one spell to encompass all the needs of your extended family. Instead, I'll be blunt and tell you my thoughts.
First, for yourself, stop feeling guilty! You did not make your daughter addicted. Manage your own depression and release your guilt and stress of the situation. Continue your walks and your routine, but vary it up. Instead of walking the same roads, choose new ones and pick out interesting things you will show your daughter when she is healthy and resumes the walks with you.
Talk to Cousin Eldrick and other family members and work out some sort of schedule or something so you two are able to watch the kids and do some light housekeeping. This frees up the son-in-law to get a job. A lot of your daughters addiction probably stemmed from home stress. Numerous kids, an out-of-work husband, her being the sole breadwinner etc... Kick him in the butt and tell him McDonalds is hiring. As you are out running your errands, pick up applications for him at the Home Depot, the grocery store, anywhere that has an opening. In this economy, a LOT of people are becoming underemployed just to keep a roof on their heads and food in their stomach. While he's working at a lesser job, he must also keep the resumes going to his field areas. It's going to look better to a future boss that he worked six months in fast food rather than lose his home. That shows he's willing to do what it takes to make things work.
Finally, set yourself limits. In this situation, it will become too easy for you to further injure your back (and I know back pain is horrible) or to become a "substitute wife" who becomes responsible for all the kids, housework, cooking, everything but the fun parts of marriage to your son-in-law. Don't do it. Let him know you are available for his work hours to babysit, but nothing more. You are not his wife to pick up after him, heck, you're not even his mother! He needs to maintain his work and his home on his own until his real wife returns and is mentally able to resume her share of the house.
Sorry for being blunt, but in a lot of cases, I think that is what is needed more than a spell.
Now, for spells. You'll need a "get a job" spell for SIL. You need a meditation and "releasing" spell for yourself. You also need to do some meditations and read around the forum on blocking empathic abilities, this will help you block out your daughters pains and feelings when they become too strong for you. It will also shield her from you. A lot of your depression right now might be coming from her end.
Anyway, I've written a book and been too rude so I'll leave off here and let others speak.
Winter

[ravenstardust]

Thanks for all the great ideas . I finally called the hospital and got to talk to her . She's at the stage where it's all about getting narcotic pain meds . I told her of a really good book on recoverry and she flat out refused to even talk about it . I also told her if she keeps hurting herself they could send her to a state mental hospital and then nobody will be allowed to see her . So I don't think she's going to be hurting herself again ... I've already made it very clear to her husband that i'll help out with the kids but I'm not taking over as wife duties . I'll try the other things you've suggested too .

[Connie]

I don't have any advice for you, but I did read your post and feel for your dilemma being a mom too.
I will keep your daughter and you in my thoughts and prayers.
Sending hugs your way.

[Ghost Rider]

Thanks for all the great ideas . I finally called the hospital and got to talk to her . She's at the stage where it's all about getting narcotic pain meds . I told her of a really good book on recoverry and she flat out refused to even talk about it . I also told her if she keeps hurting herself they could send her to a state mental hospital and then nobody will be allowed to see her . So I don't think she's going to be hurting herself again ... I've already made it very clear to her husband that i'll help out with the kids but I'm not taking over as wife duties . I'll try the other things you've suggested too .

Dear Sister,
I am very sorry that you are going through this. I went through a near thing with my son, he was very self destructive. As one who relies on Narcotics to survive each day ( by controll of a physician) I can tell you that unless they are needed she is heading don a dark road. Tough love, as hard as it is is all you have left sometimes. My son ended up leaving the family, and Goddess knows his way now.

I am lighting two candles for you tonight and one for your daughter. For you I light for energy for you and healing, and the other for the children who are the most  innocent, then I light one for her to guide her back to health.
Blessed Be
Ghost

[Zephyrn]

Raven, I don't have much but it still might help. being a person that managed to get past depression and hurting myself, I know that friends are a powerful thing in life.

Something to try is if she had/has and good true friends, is to try having them call and talk to her. Maybe they can help get her back a bit easier than an overly-stressed mom that's having hard times herself. I know everyone's different, but inside we still ALWAYS need a friend.

I'll be sending calming, healing and positive energy to both you and your daughter to help you get through this. Keep it updated please.

Brightest blessings

Zeph